Welcome to Mates And Dates


Next Dance: 50's Sock Hop on 2025-05-16 at Mountain View Masonic Lodge.
Music by DJ Otto Madik.

For All

  1. What is Mates And Dates all about?
  2. What is the attire at the dances?
  3. How does membership work?
  4. Do I have to join Mates And Dates as a couple?
  5. What is a typical dance like?
  6. What is the Mates And Dates personal data privacy policy?

For Guests

  1. What is being a guest all about?
  2. What should we know about couples/ballroom dancing?

For Members

  1. How do I log in?
  2. What if I need help?
  3. How do I see event calendar and photos?
  4. How do I fill out or see results from a club survey?


Information about Mates And Dates

For All

1. What is Mates And Dates all about?

Mates And Dates is a social dance club for couples in California's Silicon Valley, USA. We host a dance on the second Friday of odd number months. We often have a dance lesson and always have catered food. Music is provide by a professional DJ or a live band.

We hold our dances in Mountain View and have one formal dinner dance a year and most dances are "Dressy" or "Dance Casual". The venue provides a nice dance floor and plenty of room to dance and to sit and socialize. Our DJ or live band provide music for a variety of couples oriented ballroom style dancing: typically foxtrot, rumba, cha-cha, east coast swing, tango, samba, waltz, Viennese waltz, night club two-step, and every once in a while a hustle, quick step, bolero, merengue, or salsa.

2. What is the attire at the dances?

We love variety and have dances with various themes and attire. The goal is to be comfortable and safe while dancing and being respectful of the club while having fun. Most of our dances are dance casual or theme casual with one formal dance at the end of the year. Dance attire ranges through:
  • Formal: Men wear one of:
    • A tuxedo with tie and optional cummerbund or vest.
    • Slacks, dress shirt, tie, and a dinner jacket
    Women wear ball gowns.
  • Dressy: Men wear one of:
    • Suit with dress shirt and tie.
    • Slacks and dress shirt with tie and sport coat.
    Women wear elegant tops and skirts, dresses, or nice pants suits.
  • Dance Casual: Men: slacks and collared shirts. Women wear comfortable dance attire.
  • Theme Casual: Determined by the theme. Comfortable dance clothes and dance shoes.
  • No jeans or T-shirts unless that is appropriate to the specific theme.
  • No sneakers, running shoes, or shoes that will leave black marks on the floor.

3. How does membership work?

Membership in Mates And Dates costs $40 for annual dues per dance couple. This gives you a $20 discount for each dance so if you attend at least 2 of the 6 annual dances it's cheaper to be a member. Typically, members have some knowledge and skill in several couple oriented ballroom style dances such as foxtrot, rumba, cha-cha, east coast swing, tango, samba, waltz, Viennese waltz, night club two-step and perhaps even hustle, quick step, bolero, merengue, or salsa. We enjoy not only dancing and socializing, but also inviting and welcoming sponsored guests and meeting new people.

Membership (and dance event attendance as a guest) is by invitation only. Guests are always welcome. For more information, please contact us.

4. Do I have to join Mates And Dates as a couple?

Yes.

5. What is a typical dance like?

We enjoy a pleasant evening with nice table decorations, a buffet style dinner, a DJ or sometimes a live band providing music for dancing, and pleasant conversation with existing and new friends. Each dance has a specific theme for decorations and theme relevant attire determined by our Event Coordinator. The evening starts at 6:00 PM, usually with a dance lesson after which we enjoy a buffet served dinner at tables of 4 couples and the DJ or band playing as we wrap up dinner with a wide variety of ballroom dance music until about 10:00 PM. There are announcements during the break to discuss club news and to welcome visitors.

6. What is the Mates And Dates personal data privacy policy?

The personal information management policy is delineated on our website. If you have any questions contact the webmaster at the link at the bottom of any website page.

For Guests

1. What is being a guest all about?

Guest couples invited by current members are always welcome. Club dance event logistics for guests is arranged by your host member couple. Guest couple cost is $125 per event and this is discounted to $105 for your first dance with us. After attending a few events, guests are encouraged to become members. At each event, we will announce the guests and give people an opportunity to welcome and get to know them. We will work with your hosts and get your name and email and give you the opportunity to receive our newsletter and notifications for future events.

2. What should we know about couples/ballroom dancing?

The main differences between ballroom dancing and typical club social dancing are:
  • Both members of the couple are touching most of the time, usually in a typical dance frame.
  • Smooth (or Standard) dances such as waltz, foxtrot, quickstep, tango, and Viennese waltz are considered traveling dances, where couples travel along the "line of dance" which is a counter-clockwise loop around the perimeter of the dance floor. It is important that if you are traveling slowly or not at all that you move towards the center of the dance floor.
  • In the couple partnership, the Lead (usually the man) determines the direction and what steps the couple will take and the Follow (usually the woman) interprets the Lead's queues to embellish the steps with graceful movements to give the traveling motion grace and beauty.

For Members

1. How do I log in?

Each member has has an account that allows them to log in to the website once they have set up their personal password. Your first time using the website, click on the Login link in the navigation bar and near the bottom left of the login screen you will find a button at the bottom left of the page labeled Forgot My Password. Click that and follow the directions and a new password will be emailed to you with instructions on how to login and change it. (Please check your spam or junk folder just in case.)

Note: AOL and Comcast often block automated emails. If you have a ...@aol.com or ...@comcast.net email address, add the following contact to your contact list:

  • Name: Mates And Dates
  • Email: info@matesanddates.org

If you suspect we do not have your current/correct email (your partner can log in and confirm via the Who utility) or you did not get an email, please send an email to the webmaster by clicking on the Webmaster link at the bottom of any web page or fill out the feedback form and we will get your email updated so you can reset your password.

2. What if I need help?

If you get lost on the website or don't know what to do....
  1. Don't Panic.
  2. First, click on the colored logo in the upper left corner of any website page. This will bring you to your "home page" with a concise summary of links to the (few) most likely things you will need to be concerned about.
  3. Most web pages have a (tiny) line at the top of the page with a link to an Overview to give some perspective of what that part of the website does and how to use it.
  4. In any form that has two columns with the field attributes in the left (colored background) column and places to enter information in the right column, each attribute name in the left column is a link to a help function that will provide more information on what that attribute means and reasonable ranges to add for a value for it. The links usually provide hints if you merely hover your mouse over them.
  5. You can fill out the feedback form to provide feedback or to ask specific questions. We will work hard to place answers to your questions that might have broader usage in our frequently asked questions.

3. How do I see event calendar and photos?

Once logged in, to look at a list of all dance events including the photos from past events, select Event Calendar from the navigation bar and you will see a list of all our events. To see the photos for a specific event, click on the small yellow ball icon in the first column whose column title is Options.

4. How do I fill out or see results from a club survey?

The website survey utility allows members and guests to not only give their input on matters involving the club but also (after the survey is closed) to see the results of past surveys. Once you have logged in, there will be a link labeled Surveys in the navigation bar at the top of the page. That will lead you to the survey utility where you can take any currently open surveys or see the results of past surveys. There is more help available at the home page of the Survey utility on how to use it.

Questions, feedback, or website issues; please let us know by filling out the feedback form or emailing Webmaster.
Last Modified: February 16 2025 @ 18:41 PST
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